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Let me put you on to a secret of GT’s. GT has a funny bone. I use it to laugh at myself and I use it to lighten up. Between the trisecta of bills, taxes, and family I need to laugh every day. Especially when I’m reading about mess like Obama hecklers.
But I also have a side that doesn’t play when it comes to authentic living. And yes I know “Authentic Living” scares the BeJesus out of folks who would rather bask in the glow of unconsciousness and ignorance; but they have plenty of resources that will help support them in that. I have lapses in my judgement when I wish I could go back to being the person I once was: a couch potato-working at a shitty job-hate my life-hate my parents-eat crap food-talk greasy-angry-angry-angry-type of person.
But I can’t. I just can’t.
Q&A. What are some things that you can no longer do even if you tried?
Posted by gt on August 4, 2008
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Thamani — August 5, 2008 @ 12:45 am
I can no longer make excuses for not exercising! Which I hate BTW. I know that if I want to catch a bus I’ve got to a least have a trot down!
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Simone — August 5, 2008 @ 12:40 pm
I can no longer not care about me anymore. I’ve spent alot of years not taking care of my mental, emotional and physical health, yet focusing on the well-being of others. Well, I’m making ME a priority now.
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Ramona — August 5, 2008 @ 6:52 pm
GT,
I gotta tell you that I am never going to be that needy chick ever again!!!
Case in Point: You know I had a dinner party/housewarming Sunday, right? Well, eleven people RSVP’d “yes” via Evite. Three people showed up. Girl, do you know that one person called at 4:00 (start time) and said she was out shopping and did not think she was going to make it. Said person volunteered a week ago to make cocktails for my guests– “I hope you have a bottle of wine,” she said as she backed out of her commitment because of a “shopping engagement”.
Another sistah texted me at 5:30–”I am still out of town. Sorry I can’t make it.
Sistah # 3 arrived with her husband and baby at 6:30 (event ended at 6:00) talking smack about they were out looking at houses and decided to “drop by” when they finished. And, yes, she did “fix” her husband a plate and sat down and tried to make conversation. WTF???
Sistah # 4: Sent a text at 9:45p.m.–”Sorry I could not make your party. I did not feel well today. I hope you had a nice time.”
Sistah # 5: No call. No text. No show.
Girl, the old Ramona would have been calling, sending emails and texting, trying to find out where people where and what I could do to help them honor the commitment to attend my party. But, you know what? The “right now” Ramona hosted the three women who showed up (one that I actually wish had cancelled–lol) and made a mental note of who can be trusted and who needs to be on the “dismissal list”.
I am not giving away “all of my stuff” (thanks, Ntozake Shange for that poem) to anybody anymore!!
Peace, Love and Knowing that you are ENOUGH.
~Ramona
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Simone — August 5, 2008 @ 9:45 pm
Ramona – now that is some triflin’ behavior on the part of some of these women. Where do people get off being so rude and inconsiderate? Unbelievable.
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GT — August 5, 2008 @ 10:29 pm
Ramona.
I plan on doing a post on this very topic.
Four words.
Distasteful. Discourteous. Inconsiderate and Insensitive. It’s what happens when people fail to put themselves in other people’s shoes.
One.
If it offers any comfort; I’ve been there. And I’ve heard every excuse in the book. The truth of the matter is that it doesn’t matter what the excuses are. No grudges here. I handle it best by focusing on who’s there and personally creating a good time for my peoples and myself.
Two.
People show you who they are. Not by what they say; but through their actions. It’s called integrity. Their showing up was not about you; it was all about their level of integrity.
It’s dirt; so brush it off your shoulder. All that matters is that you are doing your part to love your life and live your passion.
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GT — August 5, 2008 @ 10:31 pm
I also want to add that you aren’t letting anyone off the hook. You’re just being a bigger person and moving forward.
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Ramona — August 6, 2008 @ 7:51 am
Thanks Simone and GT!!!
I am glad I am not CRAZY! Thanks for the confirmation; it saddens me that some people lack integrity.
Gt-You are right: ‘Dirt off my shoulder. I can’t wait to read your post!
Peace, y’all.
~Ramona
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