and vice versa.
Yes GT wears her hair natural. And no. Being natural doesn’t equate with me getting on some high horse and believing that women who relax don’t like themselves. Trust. I have met many a vapid, superficial, saddity, fake Black Power, no integrity having, self-righteous women just as much I have met endearing, creamy crack wearing, down to earth, authentic, loving themselves chicks. And vice versa. Just because you’re natural doesn’t = you like yourself more; and just because you’re a flat iron Goddess= you like yourself less. I’ve met sisters with locks who smoke crack and I’ve met sisters with “Rapunzel like” hair who are a joke.
These are the things that GT wants to get to know when she gets to know you: Do you have a sense of humor? Are you authentic? How do you treat others? Do you wash your hands when you leave the restroom? Can I have fun with you? Do you like yourself? Does your breath stink? Do you pick up a book err now and then? Have you left your neighborhood?...Erykah Badu says it best: Every person with a natural ain’t down for the cause and every person with a perm ain’t down for the fall.
Folks in the larger spectrum of things does hair really matter that friggin much?
Posted by gt on November 13, 2008
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Simone — November 13, 2008 @ 11:40 am
I’ve worn my hair natural, braided, relaxed, curly and straight. NEVER have I stopped being me. I am NOT the Negro Police. A good person is a good person. Period.
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TJ — November 13, 2008 @ 12:20 pm
To some it matters that much. I’ll never get it, though.
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gt — November 13, 2008 @ 12:52 pm
Hair Nazi swag.
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FirstL8dy — November 13, 2008 @ 1:25 pm
It matters to me ALOT (may hair). For some reason I may never know. I’ve always been obsessed with thick gorgeous soft real hair. I spent years faking it, until I realized one day i am going to have to look in the mirror and Love what I see no matter if its short, long, thin, whatever it will have to be mine and it will have to be me. I have made progress but I am still very much working on coming to a mends with MY identity.
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Alicia/InstantVintage — November 13, 2008 @ 1:41 pm
I’ve never seen the point of trying to convince someone that they don’t like themselves because they straighten their hair. Different strokes for different folks. I do what I like (which has included damn near everything under the sun) and I accept that people do what they like. Besides, I don’t have time to prosletize to people with straight hair – if they want to know, they will ask.
A nappy nazi I am not. LOL. You can’t judge someone on their hair no matter how they decide to wear it.
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Nappily Alise — November 13, 2008 @ 2:52 pm
I am obsessed about MY hair, not so much on others, perms contributed to MY hair being damaged and I love my naps and curls……in fact the only gripe I have with other folks hair is seeing a woman walk around with unhealthy hair (i.e. split ends, broken off chunks, etc.) , I like to be around people that have pride and who take care of themselves (relaxer or no relaxer) , crown included.
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gt — November 13, 2008 @ 3:16 pm
Yes. I get the fact that black women have been conditioned to not fully embrace their natural curl pattern. I get that. But that’s their personal issue and we’ve all been there with that struggle.
Women in general are conditioned to not accept themselves fully and that’s the bigger issue.
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firstl8dy — November 13, 2008 @ 4:02 pm
AMEN GT! We must learn to accept and love OURSELVES just as we are.
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gt — November 14, 2008 @ 1:48 am
Well thank ya first lady!
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