the point.

What do you deserve and how much of it do you deserve? Can you even measure it? How do you know that you even deserve want you want? What were you conditioned to believe about yourself? What work have you done to uncondition yourself?

When you offer perspective about living well these questions will come into play. To give you a short back drop GT wrote her usual Monday morning post on Brown Sista; a gossip blog that focuses on Black Women Celebrities. The post was a congratulatory honor to the dynamism that is Michelle Obama. Ha! One skin color comment and all hell broke loose with Young Berg’s light butts and dark butts.

GT has read the divisive posts on the color spectrum issue. It will surely give your site a lot of hits, and it will bring out the animal in everyone who has a childhood memory. So GT will make this point and be done with it. If you buy into other people’s definitions of who you are and who you should be; you’ll be lost. If you use other people measuring stick as a measuring stick for your own life; you’ll be lost. If you don’t do the introspective work necessary to love yourself deeply from the inside out; you’ll be lost.  If you’re comparing your loss and win column to others; you’re missing the point.

The truth is that most folks would rather lick a subway pole than to make a change. It’s easy to complain, brood, nitpick, whine, pen-heck, blame, wag fingers, judge incessantly, and otherwise make sh*t emotionally draining for yourself. But how long will you buy bad checks, expired milk, stale coffee, and flat soda before you recognize that you have the power? You have the power to be all that and then some; and not that you aren’t that already… but you’ve got to be willing to do the work. And quite frankly the blame game gets tiyad. That’s the part that people don’t wanna hear.

No one’s gonna give you nothing to empower you. Being light skin won’t make you like yourself more, having a husband won’t make you like yourself more. GT likes having nice furniture and food in my refrigerator and still… it won’t make me like myself more.  All that crap is smokescreens and mirrors. Yes! History has pain. But the real questions are: What do you want out of life and how to you plan on striking those items off your life list?

That is of course if you have one.

Posted by gt on November 13, 2008

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