i told you so.
Alrighty. So you’ve put your guns down, you’re hanging on a cliff, you’re drowning, looking for, discovered it and put it back, still searching, or calling out your divine spark’s name. It’s either answered, MIA, playing hard to get, or its got you down on your hands and knees. That’s cool too.
You aint free to fly yet tho. You just might have to put on your rubber boots and wade through the muck and mudd of the C-word. Criticism: the biggest, baddest boogeyman. Initially the reaction to try “something new” with make folks shift in their seats, call your bluff, or if they have more nerve than a toothache; demand an explanation.
You in turn just might have to flex your dog teeth to live ya life on your own terms because folks will come out of the woodshop to chop you down a peg or two. They’ll tell you that what you want is impossible, that you can’t have it, that Beyonce already has it, that you’ve missed the boat, how hard it’ll be, how much it’ll stingburn, and they’ll want you to smoke a joint instead. Just ask Obama.
Then they’ll fall back and it’ll get quiet. Not because they’re no longer resisting your truth but because they’re lurking and waiting for you to become and epic FAIL…all so they can pat your back and say “I told you so….wanna smoke a joint?”
Misery loves company. If you feel a growth spurt coming on and that dead wood is hanging around; drop them like a can of herpes. People are in our lives for a reason, season or lifetime. You’re real friends will grow with you and the rest will fade to black.
GT now knows why I went through all of that crap. So I could share it with you.
Posted by gt on December 4, 2008
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Rainy Day Diva — December 4, 2008 @ 6:55 am
And share you should. You are so right. This is why I work on my dreams in stealth mode.
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Harlem Chic — December 4, 2008 @ 11:14 am
LMAO@more nerve than a toothache.
Once again you’re so on about the truth. There have been times when I’ve wanted to try “something new” and have made friends tinge with green monster envy…
I’ll be honest and admit that it makes me uncomfortable to make others uncomfortable…but that’s my issue…
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GT — December 4, 2008 @ 11:39 am
Welcome Rainy Day Diva…I wonder am I crazy…? Has GT been the only woman who’s ever gone through this?
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Alicia/InstantVintage — December 4, 2008 @ 1:36 pm
I read this at knightcat’s blog:
if someone says:
“that’s impossible.”
you should understand it as:
“according to my very limited experience and narrow understanding of reality, that’s very unlikely.”
This reminded me so much of that quote.
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gt — December 4, 2008 @ 1:38 pm
Alicia..
That quote made my breath abate. Thanks for sharing the essence of what this post is about.
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Rainy Day Diva — December 5, 2008 @ 7:50 am
The only ones that probably don’t go through this are the ones who are the perpetrators, or those who have just given up. It’s been the story of my life, except they usually don’t ask me to smoke a joint. It’s more like, “wanna get something to eat.”
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GT — December 5, 2008 @ 10:41 am
RDD,
A joint, food, sex, shopping, a drink, can all be abused as life’s distractions. I don’t mean sound “high and mighty” cause the message can come off as being a know it all. But I care…whom ever this message reaches, it was intended for them to read it….
We love to call people haters…an overused word I might add…but sometimes what we really need to say is that people are uncomfortable with seeing others grow.
Thanks for your insightfulness RDD.
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TJ — December 5, 2008 @ 12:39 pm
The funny thing about friends – the real ones come back.
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TJ — December 5, 2008 @ 12:40 pm
And did you say a can of herpes? LOL… OK.
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